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Affection may be the greatest weapon for a loving relationship full of fantasies. In a solid and harmonious friendship, we rely on human affection, not money, power or success. The more we care about the other, the more we care about the well-being of our friends and consequently the more we receive. A loving relationship is full of fantasies. When we do not know how to share these fantasies, we do not realize the meaning of love.
No one has the right to love this beloved, but the right to be won. The dignity of the relationship is in the gratuitousness of love. Love is priceless. The union of two people is the way to operationalize love. The mystique of the one who loves is: gratuity and commitment for the other person to live and to develop. In this mystique, the first is the bestowal and according to the oblation. Free love has no discrimination. Love is a comprehensive word and it means: meeting the other’s needs under any circumstances.
The needs of love!
This means that affective, material and spiritual needs must be met with respect and dignity. If you were the man chosen to listen and share your wife’s fantasies, consider yourself privileged. We do not share our fantasies with anyone. We choose someone special who can hear us. It may seem strange, but for some women, fantasizing is the only possibility of freedom. Many are still oppressed by work, education and the prejudices imposed over the years. For many women it is difficult to share desires even if this man knows how to listen, which is rare.
Your wife is a human being just like you, with desires, dreams and fantasies. If she
proposes to you a new idea of love, do not ignore it and do not recriminate. It’s a tip to tell you that you’re the man she’s always dreamed of. The man you chose to trust and love, and therefore fulfill your most intimate dreams. We need to be empowered to face reality and unfortunately we are not prepared to accept some obstacles that appear along the way. Remember, love has no action on itself.
* Text posted on my old blog on 12/05/2004.
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